Life Lessons 🌱

This blog entry is different than previous articles. It’s more of a journal entry. I saw this post(see image below) and I wanted to elaborate more on a public forum because it resonated with me, and I'm confident it will resonate with a select few.

I have been making profound pivots in my life; I have discovered and shared my journey since my father's passing of my self-enlightenment. Thinking of him not being here still makes me sad; the fact that our relationship has really ended is my reality. Grief is a bitch! But the truth is, his death was an unexpected awakening for me. I’ve learned that there is no need to force acceptance in my life and to allow it flow organically. There is no need to prove myself to anyone or any situation. If someone wants to leave or makes it a point to misunderstand me- I will leave them right where the discord is. I have witnessed that individuals like to visit my past more often than I do. They desire for me to be a prisoner of past encounters and can’t acknowledge nor see the worth of my growth. They say they forgive you, are proud of your progression, or understand you, but it’s the image of your past self that they are stuck to and can’t see you for the person you’re evolving into, and that’s ok. Because, like I’ve stated, it’s no longer my position to force my aura, my true self, onto others. In my opinion, it’s their loss.

I’ve been in situations where I know my intentions are pure; my actions speak louder than my words. I’ve poured my heart out, only to be met with rejection, confusion, and assumptions. It’s over for that. My people know my heart, and I’m blessed to have them, as there are no gray areas. They know my past, have witnessed my mistakes, and love me for not allowing situations to callous me.

We all have a past; some are better than others. It's beautiful to witness someone grow from situations where they weren't dealt a fair hand. Social media has caused a crack in authenticity, compassion, and human interactions and an expansion of judging, misunderstandings, and a lack of empathy. It has blurred the lines between fiction & nonfiction.

My advice and conclusion for this entry are as follows: If you have individuals who encourage your positive changes and want to dance with you in the storms and through the joy without judgement- cherish them. Embrace them and let them know how important they are to your journey. Don't ignore patterns; listen to your gut. Keep soaring, don't allow the selfish ways of others to gaslight you into having doubts about yourself, and run your race exactly like the horses do with blinders on & continue to outdo you!! Please avoid individuals who constantly want to play devil's advocate without regard for your feelings when all you want is their support. Don’t allow the insecurities of others and their past version of you to make you unaware of your charismatic future.

Xo—Ranata